A small group of people gathered this morning before the sun rose on Kailua Beach. They gently reached into a large bucket and began to spread the ashes of a loved one into the surf.
Brea and I observed this simple ceremony of loved ones saying goodbye during our morning ritual of greeting the morning sun. We started to think about how we would like to be remembered. I told Brea, I definitely would like my ashes spread out in the waters of Kailua Beach.
Brea and I went to visit my Baba & Gigi's grave today...
People have placed the urns of their loved ones in these cubicles along with pictures and their favorite items. These memorials reminded Brea & I of the cemeteries in Athens. We strolled around and looked into each one...
This was my favorite...a picture of a loving couple...her favorite crochet needle & yarn and his deck of playing cards. What a lovely and special way to remember your loved ones. I remember how I felt at my Auntie's funeral...when they placed her urn into the ground and began covering the space with dirt. I had such an overwhelming feeling of finality. I turned to my sister and told her...I was happy we never buried our mom in that way...she agreed.
I told Brea...I would like to have half my ashes in an urn on her fireplace surrounded by pictures of my family, a piece of my jewelry and my camera. The other half in the water of Kailua Beach. I would want all of my loved ones to paddle out on surf boards and make a big circle....scattering my ashes...throwing flower leis into the center with the sounds of laughter...remembering that I am with the Lord in paradise...a time to celebrate and not be sad.
"I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?"